With
all the preconceive notions about aging and the common stereotypes about old
people, one day we might hear someone singing, “Old people, what are they good
for? Absolutely nothing!” But we know better. We regularly encounter older
folks who demonstrate grace, humor, and kindness with tremendous spirit and
grit.
Often
the value of older adults is overlooked, so it was encouraging to read the
December 29th, New York Times article by John Leland titled “Want to
Be Happy? Think Like an Old Person”.
For
three years he followed six adults, most of them in their 90’s, to try to
understand the challenges and hardships adults over 85 confront financially,
physically and emotionally. But not surprisingly, he learned much more.
In his
interviews, he found these “old” folks resilient and realistic. They had learned
to accept loss and grief; and took snubs or rejections in stride and no longer desired
things they couldn’t afford. As they lived each day, they were not paralyzed by
the challenges they faced.
In
fact, they exhibited what gerontologists call the “paradox of old age”: as we grow
older and much of our get-up-and-go has gotten-up-and-gone, instead of feeling
worse and sorry for ourselves, we actually feel better - focusing on what we
can still do and what we find rewarding, instead of what we can’t. As Ms. Wong
told Leland, “I try not to think about bad things. It’s not good for old people
to complain.”
From
these six individuals in the twilight of their lives, he saw why older adults have
higher levels of contentment and well-being than teenagers or young adults. And
that there is much the younger generations can learn from these “over-the-hill”
old folks.
If you
want to read more about what John Leland learned from talking to folks 85+, his
book, “Happiness Is a Choice You Make:
Lessons from a Year Among the Oldest Old” will be published on Jan. 23.
If you
enjoy reading and are interested in joining a book group, The Dalles – Wasco
County Public Library hosts three different book groups that meet at 6:30 PM on
different Thursdays.
Starting
on the second Thursdays of the month, The Pride Book Club meets and is open to
all adults interested in reading LGBTQA literature. The club will be discussing
The Danish Girl by David Ebershoff on
January 11th.
On the
third Thursdays, the appropriately named Third Thursday Book Group meets. On January
18th they will be discussing the international bestseller The Readers of Broken Wheel Recommend, and in February they will be
discussing The Forgetting Time by
Sharon Guskin.
And on
the fourth Thursdays, it’s The Mystery/Crime Book Group’s turn. On January
25th, they will be discussing American Heiress:
The Wild Saga of the Kidnapping, Crimes and Trial of Patty Hearst by
Jeffrey Toobin.
Anyone
is welcome to join these book discussion groups. If you have any questions,
contact the library at 541-296-2815.
The name
of the company that manufactured the best-selling train set in the 50’s and by
1953 was the largest toy manufacturer in the world was Lionel. But I was also
informed by Jim Ayers that Louis Marx and Company sold more train sets than
Lionel in the late 1950’s, and he remembers having his own Marx O27 train set. (I
received correct answers from Don McAllister, and this week’s winners of a
quilt raffle ticket, Sam Guilip - and Jim Ayers for setting me straight.)
And
speaking of Louis Marx and Company, they introduced a toy in the 1970’s that
was so successful, it was added to the National Toy Hall of Fame in 2009. For
this week’s “Remember When” question, what was the name of the brand of colorful
low-riding tricycles introduced by Louis Marx and Company, which were made
mostly of plastic, with an oversized front wheel? Email your answer to
www.mcseniorcenter@gmail.com, leave a message at 541-296-4788 or send it with a
picture of the Strong National Museum of Play in Rochester, New York.
Well,
it’s been another week, looking forward to the surprises of a new year. Until
we meet again, don’t forget to write 2018 - and surprisingly, so far I’ve been
doing pretty good.
“In
spite of illness, in spite even of the archenemy sorrow, one can remain alive
long past the usual date of disintegration if one is unafraid of change,
insatiable in intellectual curiosity, interested in big things and happy in
small ways.” Edith Wharton
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